Finding Beauty

“Find a bit of beauty in the world today. Share it. If you can’t find it, create it. Some days this may be hard to do. Persevere.”--Lisa Bonchek Adams If you aren't a part of the health and social media landscape, you might not have heard of Lisa Bonchek Adams. Lisa was a writer, a wife, a mother, and an advocate. She also had metastatic … [Read more...]

Coping with Change

Nature's first green is gold Her hardest hue to hold. Her early leaf's a flower; But only so an hour. Then leaf subsides to leaf. So Eden sank to grief, So dawn goes down to day. Nothing gold can stay.--Robert Frost It's not unusual for me to sit with a client who says, "I hate change."  And I've been in that space myself.  Change disrupts … [Read more...]

Mean Something

There has been a theme popping up in my sessions recently.  Clients who feel hurt, lost, and uncertain.  The causes of those feelings are wide and varied--everything from childhood trauma to relationship pain to bodies that don't seem willing to work.  But the feelings are the same.  And there is something else that is the same.  There is a common … [Read more...]

Don’t Drown in a Cup of Water

Okay, true confessions time. Sometimes, I like watching creation-based reality shows. Things like Top Chef or Project Runway.  I know, contrary to their title, that there's not much reality in these shows.  I know that they are heavily edited to amp up the drama.  I know all of this. But I love watching people make things.  I think that making … [Read more...]

Words Matter

If you are a long-term reader, you know that my weekly blog posts are often inspired by my week of therapy.  If I find myself saying the same things to different clients throughout the week, I tend to take that as my theme of the week.  This week, I have been talking with folks all week long about the words that we use. Because despite what the … [Read more...]

Train Crossings–Life Lessons on the Daily Drive

I don't know if you live in a part of the country where you are affected by train crossings.  If you are, then you understand what I mean when I mention that phrase.  If not, let me give you a snapshot.  A freight train crossing is an unpredictable thing.  Trains come at irregular intervals.  They are irregular lengths.  So, if the red lights flash … [Read more...]

Are You Holding on Too Tight?

I think most of us have been there. There's a goal we've been committed to reaching--that doesn't line up with our talents and resources. Or a relationship that we've invested a lot of time and love in--that isn't supporting us back.  Does that sound familiar? Maybe these sentences will ring a bell: I know that someday things will get … [Read more...]

Shift Perspective

Back in October, I wrote about the fun we had re-discovering the wonder in everyday items.  For today's post, I'm using another image from the City Museum of St. Louis.   This particular photo does a great job of illustrating an idea that I often talk about with my clients.  It is important to look at our situations from different angles.  When we … [Read more...]

Step Away from the Box

Hi all. It's been a while, and I've missed writing for you. There is a lot of great stuff out there right now about how to avoid the resolution trap, and how to gain some momentum as you move into this new year. I'm not going to duplicate that. Instead, I am going to kick off the year by sharing a story with you about my holiday season. Here we … [Read more...]

Voting and Mental Health

What on earth does voting have to do with mental health? That's a fair question. Bear with me. This is new territory for me (kind of).  In the four years that I have been writing this blog, I have never addressed politics here. There are good reasons for that.  The first is that therapy is a safe and neutral space. People are welcome in therapy … [Read more...]