My first website ever was http://www.healthybalancedlife.com. I am still identified by “healthybalancedlife” in many of my emails, on Facebook, etc. I chose that domain name because it reflected what I hope my clients achieve, a life that is healthy, balanced, and engaged. I often talk with my clients about the variety of “balancing acts” that we are all participating in as we move through our lives. So, imagine my delight when I heard an advertisement for one of the local programs on our Kansas City NPR station about the idea of a “healthy balanced life.” (If you follow me, you know that I regularly geek out about all the fun stuff I hear on NPR.)
I couldn’t listen to the entire show, because I was in session (but you can–because they archive their programs). However, the pieces of the show that I did hear reminded me of a few key points that I often explore with my clients.
- You have to know your center. This is true if you are trying to walk on a balance beam. It’s also true if you are trying to live a balanced life. Before you can get your life in balance, you have to spend some time sorting out what your key priorities are. When you have identified what is most important to you, it is easier to make choices that reflect those priorities.
- Balance is a moving target. When was the last time you walked on a balance beam, used a balance ball, held a tree pose or tried to stand on a BOSU tool? If you think about those experiences, you’ll know that physical balance includes hundreds of tiny adjustments to your posture and alignment. So does emotional and life balance. Balance isn’t a goal with a finish line. Instead, it’s a mindset that reflects hundreds and thousands of choices, large and small, over time. There’s good news there–you can always begin to make choices that get you closer to balance.
- Balance is internally determined. AKA: Balance isn’t about anyone but you. I have gotten caught in the trap of comparing my balance to someone else’s–whether on the yoga mat, or in my daily life. But the reality is, since balance grows from our priorities, my flavor of balanced with probably look really different from your flavor of balanced. And that’s just fine!
So, I’m going to go back to trying to make sure that I’m keeping my balance. Today, that means some clinical hours, some continuing education time, some grocery shopping, some mowing (double bonus: exercise and housework), some dinner prep, some playground time, and a few Tweetchats. Meeting lots of different needs–and that works for me.
What works for you in the elusive realm of seeking balance? Please share!