The avalanche of posts has started. Really beautiful tributes from children to their mothers. Moving stories from moms about the powerful ways that their children have changed their lives. I love all these posts. But a part of me notices that there is a piece missing.
There are so many women who are longing to be mothers–but they don’t have their children yet. They are in the middle of a long and painful infertility struggle. They are in the middle of a long and anxiety-filled adoption journey. They are carrying the invisible heartbreak of miscarriage or stillbirth.
There are other mothers who are living through the isolation and pain caused by postpartum depression or anxiety, or other mental health struggles. Mothers who love their children, but feel crushed by the weight of their sadness or their fear. Mothers who read the glowing words of others and wonder “what’s wrong with me?”
There are still other mothers who have lost their children to illness or accident. Mothers whose grief is re-ignited by the absence of their kids. Birthmothers, who because of their initial courage in giving their children loving families, may never receive Mother’s Day acknowledgement.
This post is dedicated to all those mothers and mothers-in-waiting whose hearts are broken this Mother’s Day.
If you know a mom who might be experiencing some of these challenges, I hope that you reach out to them. Not sure what to say? Here’s a few thoughts:
- I was thinking about you and wondering if this weekend would be difficult.
- Would you like to talk about it?
- Would you like to do something special for you this weekend?
- I wanted to let you know that you were in my thoughts as Mother’s Day approaches.
Maybe the most powerful thing that you can do is to just acknowledge that Mother’s Day will have an impact on them. To know that it might be hard, that it might feel lonely. It is best to ask how someone is feeling, rather than assume that you know. If you are a mom in one of these situations, what words and actions would best support you this weekend? If you know a mom–how do you plan to reach out?
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