I’ve talked a bit in other posts about the need for self-compassion. That’s really striking home this week. I had high expectations for this week. I was going to get back to real life post-vacation. The garden needed organization. I was signed up for a two-week fitness challenge. I had lots of good post ideas. And then I got rear-ended. Happily, I was alone in my car, the car is drivable, the other driver wasn’t injured. Unhappily, I am dealing with my first whiplash experience.
So what has actually happened this week and what I planned and hoped for this week are two very different things. I’m glad I did an extra Mid-Week Balance post last week, because there wasn’t one this week. Sitting in front of the computer hurt too much. Instead of an organized house and garden, I have a house where we’re doing survival laundry. I’ve done a lot of resting, which would be great if I had a house-elf to pick up my share of the work.
And I’m frustrated by this. But I’m also looking for the lesson this week has for me. And the lesson is this: it will be okay. I may have to do physical therapy for a while, but I am seeing clear improvements in my pain levels. I may have some housework that is piling up, but that means that I have a house to work in. I may be frustrated by my limitations, but I have been reminded that I have a great support system. Right now, this is hard, and it doesn’t feel okay, but it will be okay later. I don’t always believe it, particularly not when the pain is spiking, but eventually, it will be okay.
It will be okay. The things I can’t do right now will wait for me. The important tasks, like reading bedtime stories and giving snuggles, are still doable. Nothing irreparable was harmed–even if the repair takes longer than I want it to.
It will be okay. Life throws us challenges and we’re measured by how we respond to them. This challenge is tiny when weighed against the challenges that others faced this week. That perspective helps me regain focus.
It will be okay. I may hurt right now, but there is a path through the pain. I just have to keep moving (or, sometimes, stop moving) and let the healing take place.
It will be okay. This week’s challenges weren’t the kind that reshape the face of my “normal.” They are frustrations that I will move past.
It will be okay. When I say that, I’m not denying the pain. I’m not pretending that nothing happened. I’m not being blindly optimistic. I am recognizing that this will pass. That today’s pain and frustration is transitory and that I have made it through pain before.
So, this post is dedicated to each of you who had a hard week. Whether your “hard stuff” was life-changing, or merely frustrating, know that there is a way through it. There is support out there. It is okay to name your pain and to let someone reach out a hand to help you through it.
What helps you remember that you can survive the challenges in your path? Please feel free to share in the comments.
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