Last week, I talked about one of my favorite “go-to” coping tools–remembering to breathe. This week, I thought that I would explore another basic tool that can make a huge difference when you are feeling stuck.
So many of our life situations can create that feeling of “being stuck.” Here are just a few of the reasons that we can end up feeling that way:
- Dealing with the death of a loved one.
- Facing a new medical diagnosis
- Ongoing depression
- Significant anxiety
- Loss of a job
- Chronic health conditions
The central issue when you’re feeling stuck is the inability to take an action, to move forward. That inability may be due to feeling overwhelmed, or hopeless, or afraid, or exhausted.
Changing the Situation
When I sit with folks who feel stuck, one of the things that I often see and hear is that they are setting expectations for themselves that are too high. If you’re struggling to get out of a slump, it’s not helpful to give yourself a huge “to do” list. So, I ask my clients to identify one single action that they can take toward forward progress. If that single action creates further actions, that’s fantastic. However, the goal is to just do one thing. If you get that one thing done, you have succeeded.
Here are a few examples:
- If you are feeling isolated, send one email or make one phone call.
- If you want to exercise more, spend five minutes moving.
- If you want to start meditating, try 30 seconds of meditation.
Try very hard not to criticize the size of your action. Remember that any action you take is moving you toward the growth you want to see in your life. And even changes that look very small can move you from stuck to active, if you continue to take those actions.
So, what will you do today? What one thing will help you move from stuck to active?
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